“People might think the point of minimalism is only to get rid of material possessions … Letting go. But that’s a mistake. True, removing the excess is an important part of the recipe, but it’s just one ingredient … Minimalists don’t focus on (only) having less, we focus on making room for more: more time, more passion, more experiences, more growth, more contribution, more contentment. More freedom. Clearing the clutter from life’s path helps us make that room.” – The Minimalists
Every year at this time, I start thinking about making New Year’s resolutions. This year, rather than picking the usual resolutions like fitness challenges, weight loss or more charitable donations, I want my choice to be different.
Lately, I have been troubled by my consumerism. I am not talking about a compulsive buying disorder and I’m not going into debt. I’m talking about simple ‘retail therapy’ – a new jacket, a different color shirt – these things make me happy, for a moment, I reason. But my closet is now full so I need to get rid of some stuff or I need to stop bringing home more.
But the thing is, I like what I have now, so I have no need to get rid of it – I just don’t need any more of it. I want to direct my thinking away from consumerism and focus on more important things.
This year I am going to make one humungous New Year’s resolution …
For the next twelve months I will not buy another shirt, belt, jacket, t-shirt, pair of shoes, pants – or anything else to wear. I don’t need anymore stuff this year!
I hope putting retail therapy on hold for a year will connect me with a new intentional therapy that will provide me with, “…more time, more passion, more experiences, more growth, more contribution, more contentment. More freedom.”
If this all works, 2016 will be my best year ever.
Of course I will still buy food and personal care items from the neighborhood grocery, but get comfortable seeing me in a shirt and jacket you have seen before. Don’t worry, they will be clean – and if they need repair I know how to sew, or I have a place that will help me.
What do you think, can I do this?
Do you have too much stuff in your life? Would you prefer more time, passion, experiences, growth, contribution, contentment, and freedom?
Want to join me?
Share this with friends and let’s get everyone on board…
Happy New Year!
As always, the conversation starts here.
“In the ordinary choices of every day we begin to change the direction of our lives.” – Eknath Easwaran
Epilogue
Patagonia has become my all-time favorite company – placing people and the planet ahead of profits. They tell me not to buy their stuff – or any stuff. They have replaced corporate greed with a corporate soul. Bravo Patagonia!
This video will take 27:52 minutes to watch, but I have twelve months. Does Worn Wear work for you?
“No more stuff”
What a great thought and even better advice.
Less is more. Truly is.
Our homes can become somewhat clutter with material things.
Which means more to dust, clean and rearrange. All takes time.
My life is blessed is so many other ways.
My resolution is to give more time to my children, grandchildren and friends.
That is where true value of life is. So instead of acquiring more stuff I plan to give more time. That’s where the heart matters.
Emilie –
Brava, well said. The less time I spend with stuff the more time I have for the things that really do matter.
– Bruce
Bruce, I’ve made similar resolutions that I haven’t upheld in the past. However, for 2016 I have resolved to de-clutter (sic) one room and adjoining closet/storage per week beginning next week. The goal should result in a clean house by Spring. Oh, when Jos. A. Bank has one of those crazy sales featuring buying one shirt and getting three free, I will keep you in mind. You’ll get at least one new shirt in 2016 and not break your resolution. Send your size, please.
Bob
Bob –
De-Cluttering is important. I like your plan…I will hold onto that idea for 2017. As for the Jos. A. Bank sales – that could be an interesting idea also. No one needs to go home with 4 shirts when they went in to buy only one. What if the other 3 went to Goodwill Industries still nicely folded and ready for a new owner? I like that.
Thanks for the good thoughts and for joining the conversation. Happy New Year friend.
– Bruce
I’m not sure about this year’s resolution but one year my resolution was not to purchase any clothing or accessories for the year (and not to buy anything in preparation or go on a shopping spree when it was over.) It was my second best resolution yet. Maybe I’ll do it again!
Anna
Anna –
I am glad that worked for you. If that resolution was second….dare I ask…? Join me this year and keep me honest. 🙂
–Bruce
I also will share your resolution. I’m 68 and still have a Penelton shirt my brother gave me when I was around 15 yrs old..I don’t need new clothes because I haven’t worn out the ones I have. I do differ in who I donate to….Goodwill does do good things but, could do a lot more if they didn’t pay their CEO 600k a year and he’s not the owner…the Salvation Army also does a lot of good things for all communities and pays their CEO 15K a year ( plus a house). All my donations go to them rather… Read more »
Tim – Thank you for speaking up and for sharing in this resolution. Your shirt, no doubt, is part of many of your life stories…53 years is a long time. It would be interesting to think more about how items of treasured clothing stay with us and become part of who we are on this journey – items that almost define our individual character. Your comment on salary differences is disturbing. The foundation of Choices Do Matter is, “… to live in a world where people are kind to each other. A world where our environment matters; where rules are… Read more »
I don’t think I have the wherewithal to go a year without new clothes. Admirable!
Kim –
Thanks for the comment. I am not counting on any additional “wherewithal”…just using up what I already have. Plus, I will learn to sew better. HaHa.
– Bruce
For some time, we’ve given (and asked for ) experiences or made charitable donations instead of buying stuff, for birthdays, Christmas, anniversaries etc. The experiences we can share together create wonderful memories. And when someone gives a gift to one of the nonprofit boards I serve on, it is a wonderful feeling.
Theresa –
Thanks for your comment. I agree – experience can be shared and remembered. We have come to find gift shopping difficult; contributions can be meaningful for so many.
Thank you for all the work you do with the important non-profits in your community. You have kindled a spirit of giving for so many. Happy New Year.
– Bruce
I’m going to play the spoiler. Having less stuff does not automatically make you kinder, gentler or happier. Acquiring is a human drive and a pleasure like eating, sleeping or socializing. That said, I decluttered years ago. This gave me a sense of order and freedom. It is when the urge to buy becomes the master rather than the slave that problems begin.
Elaine –
Wise comment. Thank you for being part of the discussion.
– Bruce
Bruce, this choice and resolution is admirable and appreciated. Thrifting has been something I’ve enjoyed all of my adult life. Even so, I have been guilty of over-consuming, excessive and unnecessary spending. Your words are inspiring and challenges me to continue making decisions for the greater good. Thank you, Bruce
Ella,
Thank you for your comment and for all you do for the community. Have a wonderful 2016.
– Bruce
Hey Bruce!
I have to say that your resolution has been nagging at me….a whole year….no new clothing…. I brought this up last night at dinner with the kids and we had a fantastic discussion about “stuff”, priviledge, wealth, excess…so your post has already had a great impact!
OK. I am in. I have enough. (Actually I have too much – I doubt I will need any needles and thread!)
May I share your post on my blog? Maybe we can do this journey together?
xo
Trish – Thank you…..you are indeed “whiskey in a teacup.” First, by all mean, YES! This is a journey we can make together. I love your open discussion about stuff, priviledge, wealth, … It is a topic for more family dinners (and I am glad your family does those, BTW). We both have friends in retail who will not embrace our journey, but they will be okay. They have received too much of my money over the years anyway. We can buy them a cup of coffee, or tea, or whiskey and talk about it. The purpose of my choice… Read more »
Read what Trish Rohr posted. The pie-chart is priceless.
http://trishrohr.com/2016/01/02/2016-making-space-in-my-closet/
What a great resolution Bruce! Consuming seems so much a part of the human experience that we don’t even realize how we’re completely addicted to it. Everywhere we look were given messages to buy, buy, buy, Or this is the magical thing we need to acquire in order to finally be fulfilled. It’s a feeling of being dragged around by the nose by some mysterious force. It comes down to taking control of our minds and our lives and desires. Once we stop looking outside of ourselves for a true sense of happiness we’ll be on our way to a… Read more »
Christina,
Thank you. Very well said – yes, I mistakenly think ‘living the dream’ is in my next shirt or jacket, when all I need to do is stop and enjoy this moment.
Good luck with your closet and the very best of everything for 2016.
– Bruce
Admirable! Enjoyed the post. Good luck and I look forward to hearing how it goes. For those following along that have decluttering on their 2016 List of Resolutions please consider donating to Goodwill (a Sustain Charlotte Partner too!) Large items? No problem. We pickup near Charlotte http://goodwillsp.org/donate/schedule-a-pickup/
Stephanie –
Thanks for joining the conversation. Goodwill Industries is a favorite. Our community is better because of everything Goodwill does. A few less garage sales and more donations is a good resolution for me.
– Bruce
Last year I only bought 5 items of clothing. This year I’m further refining my closet down to only the essentials & I don’t plan on buying any more “things.” This year I’m all about experiencing things I normally wouldn’t do, e.g. Parasailing, learning to paddle board, going to a trampoline park just for fun. My question is, how do you get a spouse to declutter and go minimal? Hubby has too many dust gatherers I wish he would get rid of but he loves them.
Hazel –
Your decision to put your energy into experiences rather than things sounds wise. As for your husband going minimal – everyone comes to things in their own way. I am not a minimalist and have my share of dust-catchers…but they are important to who I am and they connect me to my experiences. I often think there is a story about how, “Some stuff does matter.” Stay tuned.
Thanks for being part of the conversation and I hope you will follow along. Tell me more about “Inner Heart Reiki.”
– Bruce
I would like to say that I really enjoy this article. I kept it, obviously, and I forward this blog to my family because I spend more time taking stuff to Goodwill than anything else. Another reason why I sent this to family, is because, you are right, people have forgotten what really happened on Christmas day. For those who believe in Mother Earth (Gaia) December 25th is the Birth of the Sun. The planet in our Solar System was created. For others, Jesus Christ, whom was actually born alone, in a cave with Mary and Joseph. I have also… Read more »
Elizabeth – It is great to hear from you. I am glad you saved this story and have shared it with your family. Say hello for your mother for us. We are in the last quarter of 2016 and I still have not purchased any clothing. It feels good. Your advice to your family gives me a story idea. After Thanksgiving, I should write on how a donation, in my name, to a favorite local charity would be a better gift than a sweater that goes in my closet with all my others. Thanks for being an important part of… Read more »